Monday, October 14, 2013

Deception on a Massive Scale

I watched this video numerous times after seeing it initially and learned new things each time I viewed it. I was so shocked by this woman's story that I immediately bought the book and read it in one day. I wanted to know more about the other survivors and their WTC story. This was an amazing story and what I found out later, is that the director was an actual friend of this woman while this fabrication unfurled. So many people involved with the 9/11 community were affected by this shocking revelation. Other reviewers gave it a lower review because they fault the director for not answering "why" she did this. This man was her friend initially and even he could not get an apology or an explanation why. Sometimes in life we never know the "why", the only thing we can control is how we react to it. You realize after watching, why she probably did this. Tania was looking for intrinsic validation after the drama in her immediate family broke her heart and destroyed her life. A prime example of how a small lie can grow to something way bigger than we can ever control.
                                             Deception on a Massive Scale...

In the aftermath of the tragic terrorist demolition of the Twin Towers of the World Trade Center, many survivors of the massacre connected with one another in a way that only fellow sufferers can understand. As those who lived through the historic day forged friendships with and drew strength from one another, one woman and her amazing story emerged as a survival superstar.

Tania Head, who recounted the tragic loss of her fiancé, Dave, in the collapse of the North Tower, told of her terrifying fight to emerge alive from the Merrill Lynch offices on the 96th floor of the South Tower and bore the physical scars that touched the hearts of Americans in New York City and across the nation. She also recounted the story of a man who came to her rescue during the ordeal. According to her, Welles Crowthers was the very reason she was alive. She even met his family, congratulating them on the heroism of their son and commiserating with them on his loss.

Not only did Tania join forces with the other survivors, she became their leader when she helped them gain access to Ground Zero for a private visit, a privilege previously granted only to the families of the dead. After working tirelessly as a member of the World Trade Center Survivors' Network, Tania was elected president of the organization. In that position, she enjoyed the honor of escorting Mayor Bloomberg, Mayor Giuliani and Governor Pataki on the initial tour of the site at Ground Zero.

Lauded as an inspiration and a dynamo by her peers, Tania fought her own demons and helped others face theirs. So imagine the shock they experienced when they discovered that not only was their fearless leader nowhere near the Twin Towers on September 11, 2001, she wasn't even in the country. Furthermore, family and friends of her supposed fiancé insist that they had never even heard the name Tania Head and that she couldn't have been his intended. Everything Tania told the press, the public and her friends was a fabrication.

When Tania connected with Angelo J. Guglielmo, Jr. in the hopes of creating a documentary about the survivors of 9/11, his research signaled the beginning of the end of her charade. As Guglielmo uncovered one deception after another, Tania's tale of woe and triumph unraveled completely.

THE WOMAN WHO WASN'T THERE is the fascinating tale of an individual with a sick need to be part of something she never even experienced. For reasons no one can fathom, she inserted herself into the midst of a group of people trying to recover from what undoubtedly was the great tragedy of their lives and became their leader.
 Tania Head created a fictional life that put her first and foremost at the center of the greatest American tragedy to date. Even after the book is finished, you will be left to wonder, as we all are, why she created the enormous falsehood and what, if anything, she hoped to gain from it.


As you can tell I am trying to take in as many documentaries as I can...
it is my one weakness.


"Je suis reconnaissant pour mes bénédictions." 
 "I am thankful for my blessings."

Sunday, October 13, 2013

Joyce Carol Vincent


This story reminds me of  the movie "Schindler's List".  
It was not a pleasant story, however, it is something we should all see and digest in our own way.

In 2006 Joyce Carol Vincent was found dead in her London flat.  The cause of death was not determined due to the advanced state of decomposition of her body.  Joyce was 38 years old when she died.  Her body had lain undisturbed in her flat for nearly three years.  The story of Joyce, what there is to know and tell has been documented in the film "Dreams of a Life".   I was able to see this documentary on Amazon Prime. 

Joyce was not a shut-in, had no history of mental illness or drug abuse, and had three living sisters.  She was widely described as beautiful, vibrant, and successful.  By all accounts from those that knew her, it is as though the Joyce they knew simply slipped away; they seemed unable to reconcile the woman in the flat with the person they had known.  Contrary to the image of a recluse she was found surrounded by freshly wrapped Christmas presents; there must have been people in her life.

While there is something morbidly compelling about the unresolved cause of her death and the grim tableau of how she was found, the more disturbing element of this story is the three year wait before her discovery.  Where were family, friends, and coworkers?  Where were the neighbors or the mailman? Where, even, were the bill collectors? In the end, it took even the landlords three years to come and clear her out for unpaid rent.  

I think that the we learn more about ourselves in Joyce's story than we learn about her.  When she died in 2003 we were pre-Facebook and post nuclear-family.  2003 was right in the transition point between the constant connections of the social media age and the isolation and lack of community of the end of the 20th Century.  Three years? How can this be? It is not hard for me to imagine friends of mine disappearing and not being noticed for three or four months.  The free spirits, wanderers, or troubled souls, but three years? There is no one I know or have ever known that was in any way functional that could disappear from all things for three years and not have someone ring the bell.  

What are we to think of this?   Is Joyce some kind of social canary warning us of the dangers of our modernity? Is it an isolated case; one sad woman's quiet decline?  Is it possible that we have reached a place where people can live out their lives with no real connections?  How acceptable is distance between family members?  How important is the building of community? How long do you want to wait before someone finds you? 

This terrifies me.  Joyce's story tapped into some deeply rooted fears about mortality and loneliness.  I think that we all have these fears.  It's why we bother to call up old friends, love and lose and love again, and hassle our way through the holidays to spend time with family; so that when things go awry, someone is there to help us.  Somewhere along the line either Joyce stopped bothering, or everyone else did.  Probably a little of both.  I think a consequence of contemporary culture may be the devaluing of substantive connections with other people.  I think that we are all not so far away from being Joyce as we might like to believe.

Very sad ...this is someone I never want to forget....


"Je suis reconnaissant pour mes bénédictions." 
 "I am thankful for my blessings."

Friday, April 26, 2013

I Love Shutterfly...

I Love Shutterfly.....did I mention that?  Ever since I discovered Shutterfly, I have been able to effectively mange all my photos and photo projects.  I know that is a crazy, overwhelming task....I have been trying to do that for several years...however, it has become a reality since I was introduced to this online photo management site.  If you open an account with this site, you receive email periodically with special offers...I love that....because most of the time it means free stuff!!!!  I just made a Mother's Day card with my daughter's photos.....

5x7 Folded Card
View the entire collection of cards.

I love Shutterfly! Don't forget your mother on Mother's Day....
Have fun today,


"Je suis reconnaissant pour mes bénédictions."
 "I am thankful for my blessings."

Monday, September 17, 2012

Auditions for a Black Cat

Would you take your cat to a Hollywood audition?  Sounds like an interesting afternoon.
I saw these people putting leashes on their cats and taking them to an audition... that left me in awe, shock, bewilderment, and utterly amused.  I wonder what the requirements were? Hmmmmm... must be black, cat, cooperative?

Take a look....

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Awesome...right?     They all are like....actually leashed. 
That must have gone over well with the cats.

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Ah- ha!  Vincent must have been an audition for Edgar Allan Poe's "The Black Cat". V. Price and Edgar Allan Poe - what a great combination. Used to love these movies - Tales of TerrorHouse of UsherThe Raven... 

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Why couldn't he just walk on the pavement like everybody else? 
Well, that's a cat for you.

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Who brought a baby cat? We specifically said no baby cats Ma'am.....

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Let's get this over with Lady.....

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Holy Toledo! This woman's eyebrows are scarier than the Vincent Price Movies....

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Um...what is happening here? I don't think I want to know...

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There is about to be drama here, I can just tell....

This whole shot is awesome - the kid, his boots and vest, the cat, the guy with a cigarette, the woman with the couldn't script this shot.

I just thought this was a fitting post as we approach Halloween...
also I do love Black Cats...the best!

Photos courtesy:
{photos LIFE archive - Hollywood audition for Black Cat, 1961}


Monday, May 14, 2012

The BEST Quick Chicken Chili

This is a recipe for the easiest, quick, Chicken Chili I have ever made.  My husband and 3 year old also went nuts over it so it is a winner in our house.

We served it over white rice and it was heavenly......

It starts with 2 or 3 frozen chicken breasts....

Pile all of the ingredients in a crock pot...

Top with the cream cheese...

Yummylicious...I bet we could also use this a great dip with taco chips...
I served it with chopped green onions on top!

Crock Pot Quick Chicken Chili

2 chicken breasts,  frozen
1 can Rotel tomatoes
1 can corn kernels, do not drain
1 can black beans, drained and rinsed
1 pkg. Ranch dressing mix
1 T cumin
1 t chili powder
1 t onion powder
1 8-oz pkg. cream cheese
Put the chicken in the crock pot.
Top with the tomatoes, corn, drained and rinsed beans,
ranch dressing, cumin, onion and chili powders,
stir to combine then top with the cream cheese.
Cook on low for 6-8 hours, stirring one or twice
 to blend in the cheese.
Shred the chicken into large pieces
and serve over rice. 
If you need to feed a larger crowd,
 just double your ingredients and add more chicken breasts.
So easy it's sinful.
Serves 4

*****I would LOVE to take credit for this fantastic easy supper but alas,  I am not so lucky...
It was created by the talented Rita May.  Check out her blog and her fabulous easy recipes.  

Bon Appetit!


"Je suis reconnaissant pour mes bénédictions."
 "I am thankful for my blessings."

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Are you kidding me?

Ummmm, I LOVE Anthropologie...It is my favorite store, website, and place to shop PERIOD!   As a matter of fact, it is one of my ad links....HOWEVER, this lamp is...........well.....what do you think?

It is priced at $2800.00.

Yes, I said $2800.00.

No that is not a mistake.

Click on the is for real.   Don't get me wrong...Anthropologie is one of my very favorite places EVER....but, I don't feel this lamp.   What was the buyer thinking?    I don't know....I do know one thing....I am sure there will be plenty of knock offs in blog land......ummm wait, maybe not.   What do you think?  Am I just not getting this lamp?  I would be very interested in knowing if I am the only one.

Have a great day.....


"Je suis reconnaissant pour mes bénédictions."
 "I am thankful for my blessings."

Monday, April 16, 2012

Style Quiz....WOWZA! Was this right on the money!!!!!!

WOWZA was this right on the money!!!!!!  I took the style quiz on the Home Goods Web Site and boy was I amazed at how this quiz totally pegged my home decor style.  It even gave me my ideal paint colors which are EXACTLY the colors I have painted in my home. I am still in shock.....LOL

Try it and see where you is amazingly accurate....


You have a refined sensibility and bring a sense of history and tradition into your decor. You appreciate how symmetrical arrangements and beautiful, well-crafted pieces create a solid foundation to a room. But you like to shake up this restraint with objects and accessories that express your personality and your love of other cultures. When traveling, you seek out unique objects that reflect what you love, and you use them in a sophisticated way. You want people to feel comfortable in your home, and cozy chairs, ethnic fabrics, unique pieces, and even a little touch of quirk or humor give your house a laid-back, Bohemian flair.
You value serenity. While there are probably a lot of interesting things in your home, they are joined by your taste or a certain palette that keeps them in harmony. You appreciate the beauty in simple forms. Whether fancy or plain, you appreciate things that are well made and function as well as they look. You also have a strong respect for the environment and craftsmanship. You care about how things are made, and how they are used.

Your Happy Home Colors

Your Design Challenge: UNIFYThe good news is, you probably have many things you love and have collected, and no one would ever say your home is boring! You've done the hard part; now you just need to pull it all together. If your furniture seems like a mish-mash, unify it through similar upholsters or slipcovers. When grouping objects, try to find something they have in common. If they share a shape, color or material, they will look like a collection. A tray is every decorator's secret weapon for making groups of small objects look purposeful and sculptural. If your accessories are all over the map, try subduing the upholstery or wall color, so your small items are the stars.

This is SO me...I am amazed at how accurate it is......

Have Fun,


"Je suis reconnaissant pour mes bénédictions."

 "I am thankful for my blessings."

Thursday, March 15, 2012

A New Family Member.....

A new family member....

We now have a new family member....last November we discovered our beloved Chow Chow of 10 years was diagnosed with Hermangiosarcoma.  Basically this means a giant tumor in the abdomen.  It is terminal.  It was shocking and devastating.  Our family had to make a horrible choice that I would never wish on anyone.  My last act of love was to set him free.  I was crushed.

My 3 year old was also so sad...I couldn't make the hurt go away and if you are a parent, you know how that feels...HORRIBLE.  So, we decided to add a new family member and we love him.  He cannot ever replace our Chow Chow but we love him in a different way.  So is life.

Here are some photos:

 He is a Coton de Tulear, the royal dog of Madagascar.  This is a great link that explains the breed and it's rarity.  He's like 7 weeks old in these photos and he is so snuggly!

Check out the breeder where we located him...she is phenominal...she really cares about her animals and strives to re-home other animals in her area.  Thank you so much Cuddly Cotons!!!

I have actually made this little guy a royal doggie bed and I am will post my tutorial very soon.  Can't wait to show you!

Denise cursive

"Je suis reconnaissant pour mes bénédictions."
 "I am thankful for my blessings."